Predators, Cheating, and Lying

An excellent post from Shauna Aura Knight about cheating, the difference between cheating and ethical non-monogamy, and why cheating is wrong. Very good stuff.

Shauna Aura Knight

20619462_xxlThis post is a tangent off of my series on Pagans and Predators. I want to talk a little bit about cheating, in other words, infidelity, and why cheating is 1. bad and 2. a red flag as far as the issue of predatory behavior in the Pagan community. Well–in any community, for that matter.

I hear a lot of Pagans prevaricate and tell me, “Cheating’s not so bad, you shouldn’t be so hard on people just for cheating. It’s not like it’s abuse or something like that.”

And in some cases they are right, and in some cases they are wrong.

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~ by Sable Aradia on August 9, 2014.

2 Responses to “Predators, Cheating, and Lying”

  1. Thanks for reposting. Yeah…I’m still a little surprised by how many people tell me I’m a prude for thinking cheating is bad. Boggles my mind.

    • You’re absolutely right. It’s not about sex. It’s about lying and betrayal. It’s about breaking a contract. It’s about looking someone you love in the face and telling them lies about your behaviour that you know will hurt them and exposing them to risks they didn’t agree to be exposed to. There’s no way that this is ever cool. Consensual non-monogamy; totally different thing. It’s a subject that really interests me and actually, my partner and I are working on a book about it. This is one of the big things that we as Pagans are doing. We are writing a new sexual morality; because for us, the old Christian one doesn’t work. And there’s good reasons why it just doesn’t work in the modern era anyway (since most of the rules our culture operates by are about controlling a woman’s fertility and we now live in an age of reliable birth control and some vague semblance of economic and legal equality – though we’re not quite there yet). But that doesn’t mean we can throw ALL rules of honour, respect, and honesty out the window! We need new rules of honour, respect and honesty. Thanks so much for posting this.

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